What's self love got to do with it? What's resilience but a second-hand assumption?

I recently asked myself the question “If I 10x’ed self compassion in my life, what would be different?”,

Along with answers like a kinder mind, gentler thinking, more ease and acceptance. There was a core theme of coming back to centre more quickly, I’d be more aligned, calmer and able to handle life... all ways of describing greater resilience practically in my life.

Until now, I hadn’t consciously associated self compassion with resilience. Most of the resilience understanding I had was mainly about developing better coping mechanisms, being stronger, train harder, creating better habits, mainly from the likes of masculine coaches and so called performance experts.

But had I missed the point completely?

Had I missed that the fundamental part of resilience is that it’s actually a form of self love?

So what if resilience is just the capacity to love yourself more?

That when times get tough, shit hits the fan, we’ve got the ability to love ourselves through it.

Could it really be that simple.

That whatever for my resilience practice takes, whether the gym, healthy habits, therapy, meditating.., at the core of it it’s about developing self love. To learn to tap into it and cultivate it within. To develop it, so when you need it, it’s already there.

In my wellbeing and tech consultancy work at the moment, I’m talking a lot about the ability to deal with change. Big change is coming, it’s already started. However with the AI boom about to expontentially compound over the coming years, we are going to see a whole lot of change that none of us are currently prepared for.

Many of the conscious leaders and practitioners I work with are already preparing for this. Preparing themselves and preparing others. Taking their understanding of change principles and applying it to the new challenges ahead.